Can anyone suggest any advice for me about my 4 year old son?

A few months ago my husband past away, my 4 yr old keeps asking 'i want daddy' or 'when daddy coming home' etc. I have explained a number of times about his father but it doesn't seem like he's understanding as he keeps asking about his dad.Can anyone suggest any advice for me about my 4 year old son?
There are lots of good books out there that might help. Go to www.amazon.com and type in ';What's Heaven';. You'll find that book but also there will be other recommendations you can browse through. Another one that a lot of people like is The Fall of Freddy the Leaf. They may help him to understand or they may not, at 4 it just doesn't seem permanent. Make sure you are also taking care of yourself, talk to a counselor if you need to. A counselor could also give you some tips on how to help your son. I'm very sorry for your loss.Can anyone suggest any advice for me about my 4 year old son?
Well this cant compare to loss of a dad, but when my sons great grandpa died, i told him great grandpa had gone up to heaven..well that created problems going to the gravesite, because when i told him thats where greatgrandpa was buried, he got confused with why he wasnt up in heaven...so i explained to him that his body was in the ground, but his heart was up in heaven. We send balloons up to him, and sometimes attach drawings or little notes to the string, and make a big deal of it, and how happy great grandpa is that he got a balloon. It helped him understand better...i hope maybe that might helpa litlle...but i would recommend a counselor anyways, i needed one when my grandpa died, and im a grown adult who understands, and it was my grandpa, not my dad...think about that, he needs the help. Good luck!
Awwww this is very sad, I am too sorry for you and your loss/





Your son at age 4 is old enough to understand somewhat about death so you need to present it to him in a way he can grasp about his own daddy. He needs to know he can still speak to daddy whenever he wants and that daddy is always with him. You guys can celebrate his daddys life with all sorts of things, go to a special place , do special things, and have a way of bringing him to in to your daily lives so your son doesnt feel such a huge void. Get him to understand daddy is with the Angels but he can always hear him if he wants to talk and although daddy wont be coming back in person, he hasn't left him.





This is all dependant on your spiritual beliefs of course but for a 4 year old he needs to feel that something is still very much alive somehow.
Tell him that Daddy is with God now and show him God lives in the sky. Tell him that he will get to see him again when he is old. go show him some flowers and let him pick some and tell him that God picked him to be in his group of flowers he has a job to do and that is to look down from the clouds over you two. :)
gosh.......im sorry ....mabye do u have any old movies or pictures of dad?we dont want him to forget him.....tell him he can talk to dad anytime he wants,dad can still hear ........wow....i dont know im sorry honey
Maybe take him to the grave side and tell him he can talk to his daddy there and visit him here. It must be so hard, I wouldn't really know what I would do or say for my children unless it happened to me. Sorry for your loss.
im so sorry for your loss!!


its going to be hard on him for a long time. you can expect to have to explain it over and over again. think how many times you have to tell kids his age to not do something. it takes a long time to sink in.


a daddy is a hard thing to let go of! did you ever hear the song ';little red ballon';? its a country song but i cant think who sings it. but it talks about a child losing her father and she sends him messages up to heaven written on a red balloon.


dont try to erase the memory. talk about daddy and look at pictures of him. its a good idea to make a special photo album/ scarp book (w/ ur sons help) so he can look back on the memories together. and if it is you beliefs.. talk to him about God and how He called daddy back home because he was so special to Him or needed him for an important job in heaven.


Good luck to you!!
Assuming you told him that daddy is ';gone'; to heaven or whatever your belief just keep talking to him about that. I suggest you take him to a counselor as well. It's hard for a little boy to understand a thing like death.





I am so sorry for your loss. Best of luck to you.